The reasons that members of this community don't get tested vary, but there are common threads that touch youth across all demographics, especially questions about what love and sex means after a positive HIV diagnosis.

"What is sex going to look like? ... What is life going to look like? Am I going to die?" These are some of the questions Diggs hears often from those he counsels.

The fear of stigma and isolation is great enough that it "will stop people from wanting to know their status," he said, "but it won't stop the sexual behavior that's happening."

For gay, bisexual and transgendered youth, he said, the fear of isolation can be intensified for those with strong religious backgrounds. They may feel their faith or community will abandon them because of their sexual identity. Diggs said he has seen this lead to risky behavior, and he urges parents to be involved early in an open dialogue about safe sex.

This includes recognizing that a message of abstinence doesn't always work with teens and young adults, he said, and recognizing that the conversation should be focused on sexual health, not just avoiding pregnancy. For a gay teen, he said, preventing pregnancy doesn't translate to safer sex.

Diggs suggests moving sex and sexual health out of the shadows by making testing a regular family event and using that time as an opportunity to talk about the family's belief system around partnering, sex and marriage.

But being open about one's sexual health isn't always an easy thing -- a lesson Traylor has learned when she broaches the topic of dating. "When I get to the point and I ask someone, 'Would you date someone that's HIV positive?' A lot of people can't answer that question."

Learning when to disclose her status has become part of the learning curve for Traylor. She said being upfront earlier about her status has made things better. People respect her honesty and it makes the conversation easier to have.

Other obstacles

For a teen, finding and getting to a testing facility can be a challenge all its own.

Ainka Gonzalez, prevention programs manager at AID Atlanta, said she has seen teens struggle to get tested simply because they can't get transportation to a testing facility. For a high school student, teens must find a location that operates outside of school hours if they don't want to involve their parents. And, if a teen tests positive for HIV, their parents may need to get involved anyway.

"Laws differ around the country, but usually if you do test positive for HIV and you're underaged, a parent would have to consent for treatment," Gonzalez said. "If a young person may be having other challenges at home, this of course will amplify it."

Kaplan thinks easier access to testing is crucial. "If kids got to a place where they were routinely offered screening ... they wouldn't struggle with 'Where can I get tested? Who do I talk to about it?' And a lot of the stigma would be eradicated," he said.

The next hurdle is paying for treatment. Teens who are too young to have their own health insurance and young adults up to age 25 who are on a parent's health insurance plan will likely need family support to pay for medication. Without insurance, they often need to contact the department of health -- an option Traylor, whose medication runs $3,000 a month, finds "terrifying."

"At one point, I was so afraid that I wasn't going to get health insurance anymore that I stopped taking my medicine," she said, and hoarded medication because she expected a month-long wait for a doctor's appointment through the department of health.

To find HIV testing facilities in your area, go to HIVtest.cdc.gov.

The next generation

Traylor feels her HIV education in high school didn't offer crucial information about testing facilities and local rates of infection -- information you can find on CDC.gov.

"In school we learn(ed) that HIV can lead to AIDS and AIDS can lead to death. ... It's a fear and that's it."

Today, Traylor is raising two healthy children with the help of her mother, and is educating them early about HIV.

The education starts at home, but it isn't always easy. Traylor helped her 9-year-old son with a project on the stigma of HIV, but admitted she was nervous to talk to him about sex.

"I said, 'If mommy had HIV, what would you do?' He said he wouldn't touch me, he wouldn't kiss me, (or) hug me anymore."

It opened the door for Traylor to talk to her son about how HIV is transmitted. Though she didn't tell him her status, she explained to him that HIV and AIDS can't be spread though common contact, like hugs and kisses.

"Then (he) said, "OK, Mom, I'll hug you. And I'll kiss you. I'll still love you the same."